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2000

• April 9th Right Woman, Wrong Time, A Fool For Love, Confessions Aren't Always Good For The Soul
• April 2nd Can't Stop Fighting Long Enough To Get Married, He's Got Two Loves, She Wants to Try a Woman
• March 26th A Dangerous Game, A Secret Past, Foolish To Be Friends
• March 19th Enable No More, Can't Get Over Her Past or His, Don't Put Anything in Writing
• March 12th My Wife Works at a "Gentlemen's Club"; Dump the Guy, Get a Dog; Help With Stepkids
• March 5th If You Have To Fight, Fight Fair, When He's Not Romantic, When He "Needs Variety"
• (No February 27th Column; Dr. Tracy down with the flu)
• February 20th Breaking Up Is Easier Than Cracking Up, The Sounds of Love, Waiting To Hear The Magic Words
• February 13th Her Best Friend's Wedding, Coping With A Cross-Dresser, Won't Hold Her Hand
• February 6th In Love With Her Sister's Man, My Lover's Kid Is Driving Me Nuts, Sex Before Marriage
• January 30th "We're not Swingers, but...", Bothered by His Past, In Love with a Hooker
• January 23rd Bride Fever, Entrepreneurial Madness, Ex-Lovers as Friends After Marriage
• January 16th To Marry or Not?, Open Marriage, A Fool for Lesbian Love
• January 9th Long Distance Love, Stand By Your Man, Will He Change?
• January 2nd Wedding Day Blues, Run Around Naked, Slobs Need Love Too

• December 12th A Man Who Doesn't Like Children, In Business With A Lover, Guys Who Don't Make Moves
• December 5th Looking For One Good Man, When To Get Out, Mother-In-Law Hell
• November 28th Getting A Guy; Love Me, Love My Tree; He Calls Her By His Ex's Name
• November 21st A Controlling Man, Why Can't He (or Won't He) Commit?, She's Irresistible to Him
• November 14th He "Needs Space", No Longer Lonely in Texas, To the Bigot in Disguise
• November 7th Living Together, Wants Sex Now, Is My Fetish Sick?
• October 31st Is the Age Difference Too Much? Marriage or Else, Parents vs. Fiance
• October 24th Verbally Abusive Boyfriend, Fear of Intimacy, Menage a Trois
• October 17th Love Me, Love My Dog, A Really Bad Surprise, He's Hot and She's Not
• October 10th Love With a Younger Man, Online Lies, More Interracial Problems
• October 3rd Interracial Marriage. Waiting Too Long to Get Married, Dating the Not-Quite-Divorced
• September 26th Fear of the "M" Word, Married and Miserable, Is Honesty Always the Best Policy?
• September 19th More Parent Problems, Can We Swing?, Bi-Curious
• September 12th Husband "Not Happy", A Younger Man's Love, The "L" Word
• August 29th Attached to an Ex, Desperate and Depressed, To have Sex or…
• August 22nd Falling in Love on Vacation, Gay Girls and "The Look," Older Woman Catches Young Man's Eye
• August 15th Worried About Her Past, Confused and Scared, Male Baby Hunger
• August 8th Double Standard, Cheapskate Boyfriend?, Husband's Pornography Bums Her Out
• August 1st Ex's Are Valuable, It Takes Two, Hots for The Boss
• July 25th Too Nice to Get What She Wants, Moving In Together Makes Parents Fume, The Woman of His Dreams?
• July 18th Too Cool to Choose, Settling for a Bi Guy, Three's A Crowd
• July 11th A Fool For Him, Nude Models Need Love Too, Can Kids Kill their Love?
• June 20th Too Ugly or Too Old To Love, In Love and Scared, Mother-In-Law from Hell
• June 13th Desperate for a Hug, Living Together, A Lonely Smoker
• May 30th Six Years is Too Long, Memories Make Her Mad, A Man With No Baggage
• May 23rd Desperate Stepmom, Engaged but not Turned On, Healthy Anger
• May 16th Reconciliation Isn't Easy, When He Needs A Little Push, Porn Hubby
• May 9th Nine and a Half Months, Wedding Bell Blues, She's Hot, He's Not
• May 2nd In Love With a Married Man, Men Who Can't (Or Won't) Say "I Love You", Just For Sex
• April 25th A Virgin in Lust, On the Road To Morocco, Call Off the Wedding
• April 18th She's Perfect -- But..., A Too-Long Engagement, Nervous Breakdown in Hong Kong
• April 11th Dr. Tracy Returns -- Her Very Personal Message, Man Wants To Exchange 46-Yr.-Old For 17-Yr. Old, Old Love Letters
• January 10th Fear Of Valentine's Day, How Much Togetherness is Too Much, Barely A Virgin
• January 3rd Where is He? Why Doesn't He Call?; Trouble With Commitment; Her Female Fantasy

• December 20th Christmas Party Regrets, Her Son is Driving Them Apart, Who Pays These Days
• December 13th Home for the Holidays, Man Who Can't Share, Wants Wife to be a Nudist too
• December 6th Relationship Danger Signal, When to Say "I Love You", How Do You Have an "Open" Relationship?
• November 22nd Long Distance Love, Wife's Online Sweetie, Will He Like My Kids?
• November 15th Is Three A Crowd?, When It's A Kiss-Off, Is It Love?
• November 8th Beware of Young Girls, The Grass is Greener, A Woman's Sexual Peak
• November 1st Making His Wife's Fantasy A Reality, Wants to Get It Off Her Chest, In Cyberlove
• October 11th Boyfriend's Mysterious Disappearance; Panties Yes, Kids No; Lying, Cheating Husband
• October 4th No Easy Way Out, Crazy in Ireland, What To Do on a Date
• September 27th No Sex, Husband wants to Swing, Wants to be Married This Year or Dead
• September 20th The Masturbation Mystery, Getting Back Together, Transition Guy Feels Used
• September 6th Can't Fall in Love, May-December Romance, Is His Temper a Problem?
• August 30th Missing Sex Drive, The Parent Problem, In Defense of Indian parents
• August 23rd Ask Monica, Love His Kids, When to Forgive, When to Forget
• August 9th Letter Burning a Hole in Her Pocket, Choosing Between Wife and Masturbation, Letter to a Virgin
• August 2nd Moving in Together - Who Pays?, Cross-Dressers Can Be Fun, May+September=0 Kids
• July 26th Last Word on the "M" Word, Big Beautiful Woman Finds Truth, A Virgin with a Wonderful Life
• July 19th Crazy Love, May/December Romance, Old Enough to Know Better
• July 12th Too Angry to Love, Her Family Objects, Who to Choose -- Mr. Boring or Mr. Rocks My World
• July 5th Sometimes You Just Can't Win; Fear of Gay Love, Cross-Dresser Needs Love
• June 28th Who's In Charge; In Love vs. Loving; Who Grows, How Fast, and When
• June 7th Fascinated by an Older Man, Nice Guys Finish Last, Waiting Too Long
• May 31st Guys Who Wear the Panties, She's Been Moving Out For Two Years, No Nookie
• May 24th Sex With Her Ex, Best Friend's Role, Big Beautiful Woman Finds Truth
• May 17th His Ex is a Mess, Can't figure out Women, Attracted to Gorilla
• May 3rd Hopelessly Devoted to Mr. Wrong, A "Dear John" Letter, Wedding Date Blues
• April 26th Big Beautiful Woman in Love With Small Minded Man, His Buddy's Wife, Parents Can Only See Black and White
• April 19th Ex-Wife Won't Go Away, When To Tell, A Desperate Woman
• April 12th Children Don't Want Him To Remarry, In Love With A Married Man, Torn Between Two Men
• April 5th Blowing His Mind With the "M" Word, The "M" Word Didn't Make Him Jump With Joy; Surprise! She Wants To Get Married
• March 29nd Sick of Her, Lies Come Back to Haunt You, All the Men are Duds
• March 22nd Haunted by the Past, More than a Virgin, The "M" Word
• March 15th Love Me, Love My Dog, The Kid Question, Do Opposites Attract?
• March 8th Waiting for Him to Get His Act Together, Waiting for Him to Stop Cross-Dressing, Waiting for Him to Be a Daddy
• February 22nd The Couple that Masturbates Together..., Who Pays?, Controllers
• February 15th Mad Passionate Lover, Bi-Sexual Daddy, Her Toungue in His Mouth
• February 8th Stupid Rules, Sexy Feet, Loving a Player
• February 1st Lesbian Love, Lonely Dad, Ex-Wife Problems
• January 25th Money and Love, Men Who Wear the Panties, Men Who Don't
• January 18th What's With Clinton?, The Question of Children, Too Many Women
• January 11th In Love with a Married Man, Too Good To Be True, She Doesn't Want Sex
• January 4th Her Mother Hates Him, What's His Game, Jealous Swinger

• December 14th Dangerous Dad; Money, Money, Money; Smothering the Flame
• December 7th In Love with a Virgin, Masturbation, Can a Married Woman be a Lesbian?
• November 30th Not Getting any Younger, Still Looks Young, Trapped by Prejudice
• November 23rd I Love You... Goodby!, He Likes Her Undies, Wants to be More than a Friend
• November 16th Is Living Together Bad for a Future Marriage? Can I Make Her Love Me? Hopeless in Oklahoma
• November 9th Married Dancers Have to Tell, Cyber Swinging, A Doomed Relationship
• November 2nd Online Love Story, Different Religions, Mail Order Bride from Philippines
• October 26th Online Romance Gets Real, Perfectionist Problems, A Virgin and Proud of It
• October 19th Should We Live Together, Breaking Up is Hard To Do, Never Had a Boyfriend
• October 12th Jeckel & Hyde, Wanna Be Like Those Sexy Parents, Cultural Confusion
• October 5th Confused New Dater, Lovesick and Wants Him Back, A Crush on Her Teacher
• September 7th He's a Heartbreaker, The Kiss of Death, An Abusive Wife
• August 31st To Confess or Not, Marriage on the Rocks, In Love with Her Boss
• August 24th Love Won't Happen If You're Looking? Star-Crossed Lovers; His Kids Are A Pain
• August 17th Love Him, Can't Love His Mother; In Love or In Fantasy?; Will He Cheat Again?
• August 10th Why Did He Say No?, Faithful or Playing Around?, Time for an Ultimatum
• July 20th Can Friends Be Lovers? On Again, Off Again Love, Wants It Both Ways
• July 13th Hanging All Over Each Other, He Wants Too Much, Love Me Love My Cat
• July 6th Time To Let Go, No Kisses, He's Gone/She's Blue
• June 29th The Magic Words, Attracted and Crushed, Trouble on the Net
• June 22nd Making a Man Fall in Love, Her Friend's Ex, Her Guy's Family
• June 15th Flak from last week's column, Engaged and Depressed, Under Her Mother's Thumb
• June 8th Parents Too Sexy for their Kid?, "The Rules" will make you crazy, A Husband in Name Only
• May 11th When A Man Loves A Woman, Getting Her to Trust Him, Her Most Sensitive Part
• May 4th Third Wheel in a Threesome, Do Nice Guys Finish Last?, Her Parents Turn Him Off
• April 27th Lost Virginity, Lost Love, Wedding Day Blues, Interracial Relationship Problem
• April 20th In Love with a Married Man, Teenager In Love with an Older Man, He Wears High Heels
• March 23rd Internet Love, Broken-Hearted Mess-up, In Love with Lovable Flake
• March 16th CyberTrash, Wigged out in bed, When to have sex
• March 9th East Meets/Loves West, Bothered by her Past, Norwegian Girls
• March 2nd He Married a Lesbian, She's Got a Momma's Boy, Yearning For His High School Sweetheart
• February 23rd Almost Married, A Stripper for His Wife, Remorseful "Relationship Murderer"
• February 16th Sixteen and Old, Confused Love, Hot for a Friend's Girlfriend
• February 9th Will He Change? Discovering He's Bi, Oversexed
• February 2nd Romance in Cyberspace, He Blew It, Sign Language
• January 26th Seductive stud -- fact or fantasy?, Suspiciously unavailable man, Making love even harder to find
• January 19th Bewitched by "Cyberlove", Ready to commit! Now what?, Lost Virginity Blues

• December 29th Is Reading Playboy Normal?, The Past Poisons the Present, Involved With Her Married Boss
• December 22nd "The Rules", Naked in the Backseat, The Good Old Days when Love was Free
• December 15th Bi and Shy, The Religion Problem, Ex "Escort"
• November 24th You're Never Too Young, The Sincerely Lovelorn Elvis, Don't Scare Him Away
• November 17th Beautiful is Tall and Blonde - NOT!, The Erection Problem, Fed up with Selfish Husband
• November 10th Long Distance Love Fades, Too Much Criticism Kills Love, Attracted to Men Who Are Taken
• November 3rd Too Immature to Love, Controlled By Her Parents, The Virginity Problem
• October 27th Lonely Beautiful Blonde, The Ex in her Life, Lousy Sex
• October 20th Vibrator Madness, Poet in Love, Net Dating Dilemma
• October 13th The "Other Woman" Blues, Broken Engagements, Pre-Marital Hornies
• October 6th Bisexual Trouble, She's Too Young, Dance Teacher's Darling
• September 29th NetCrazy Love, Is There Hope?, Consequences for Lovers
• September 22nd Romeo with a darkside, Love me, love my hair, Doing it one more time
• September 15th The Neanderthal Male, He Just Wants To Be Friends, Wants A More Perfect Man
• August 25th Nobody's Prince, The Sleeping Orgasm, Virgin Lover
• August 18th Older and Unrequited at 30, Wannabee Swinger, Slept with an ex
• August 11th Parting is such Sweet Sorrow, Baby hunger, He wants romance
• August 4th The Heel Repents, Good In Bed vs. Love, Is It Over or Not?
• July 28th Don't Tell!, Virgins are scarce, Commitment Phobic
• July 14th Too In Love, Looking for Mr. Right, Can Cyber-love Get Real?
• July 7th Worrying needlessly, More time vs. sex now?, Runs hot and cold
• June 30th Engaged and confused, Attracted to much older women, Virtual better than Real?
• June 23th Giving too much -- way too much, Driving 'em nuts, Feeling Rejected
• June 16th Will I Always be Kicked Around?, Playing with Fire, Why Can't I Have an Orgasm?
• June 9th Husband at the Neighborhood Bar, Just Friends, Love Me, Love My Kids
• June 2nd Tap-dancing on your heart, Tightwad Boyfriend, Ignored at parties
• May 26th When Crazies Recover, Slaves and Masters, Is this "The One"?
• May 19th Reluctantly in Control, An interfering mother, Impatient on Cloud Nine
• May 12th Time Waster, Too Many Friends?, The Big Rush
• May 5th A Toothless Deadline, Too Perfect for his own Good, Wanna-be Mom
• April 28th What's Wrong with Living Together?, A "Born-again Virgin", Cyber-flirting with Disaster
• April 21st Crazy ladies, A Friend -- or A Lover?, Entrepreneurial madness
• April 14th The "Evil Girlfriend", Needing to be needed, Lesbian possessiveness
• April 7th Lost in lust, A Jerk is a Jerk is a Jerk, Being a Doormat
• Mar. 31st A problem With Porn, Choosing to be childless?, Escaping an abuser
• Mar. 24th Sexual incompatibility, The "Dance-Away Lover," Caught up in being single
• Mar. 17th Afraid of being alone, A 27-year age difference, Rushing things
• Mar. 10th Bad advice from friends, No kids?, Can you ever trust a cheater?
• Mar. 3rd "Training wheels lover," Driving men off, Runaway jerk
• Feb. 25th Enraged over infidelity, The elusive Cyberlover, Choosing and breaking up
• Feb. 18th Low self-esteem, Love and lies on the Net, Fantasy prospects
• Feb. 11th Mr. Unavailable, Curing commitment phobia, Police wife's blues
• Feb. 4th Bisexual or just experimental?, Re-stoking the fire, Too smart to play the Mating Game?
• Jan. 28th "Let's just be friends," A classic Waffler, Overweight and shy
• Jan. 21st How to talk dirty, Understanding "No," A guy to dump
• Jan. 14th Men wearing panties, 3-way sex, Dealing with an uncommunicative man

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